You could easily define me as a good girl. My entire life I have worked hard to obey the rules, earn an A+, and receive praise from those in authority. I never really saw a problem with this. After all, I was being good. What could be wrong with that?
It wasn’t until recently that I began to understand the problem. It was the first time in my life that I wasn’t receiving abundant praise and affirmation. I wasn’t consistently being told how good I was and I found myself floundering. I began making decisions based on what I thought other people would do or say instead of what I actually thought. Seeking the praise of man began to consume me and dictate each part of my life.
It was in those hard moments that God began to reveal the problem with being a “good girl”. The problem with letting good define me.
I had let “the good girl” become my identity, and when I was no longer being affirmed and praised, I lost who I was. You could describe me as floundering at this time. I felt as if I was being tossed from side to side. Desperately looking for relief, practically begging people to tell me that I was good enough. You see, when we place our identity in things of this world, whether that be the praise of man or anything else, we’re placing our identity in something unstable.
I finally realized that in order to know who I am, I have to know whose I am. My identity and self-worth doesn’t rest in the good opinion of my parents, my boss, friends or my spouse. My identity rests solely in Jesus Christ and He says that I am loved, beautiful, worthy, a masterpiece. Jesus says that through Him, I am able. Able to do great and mighty things for Him. Able to live an abundant and full life. Able to rest on a firm foundation, no longer tossed around.
Galations 4:7 says that I am, “no longer a slave, but a son; and since you are a son, God has made you an heir.” Did you catch that, we are no longer a slave to the opinions of others and we are actual heirs to the God of the universe. When we fully believe and embrace that truth, we will live with an unimaginable freedom.
Until we embrace the freedom we have in Christ, we will always fall short. We will never be good enough.
Don’t fall prey to the sin of false identity. When we’re confused about our identity satan is winning. When we’re confused about our identity we face the chance of missing God’s plans for us.
The fear of displeasing or disappointing people is still a real struggle for me. However, each time I find myself longing for that affirmation Jesus whispers to my soul, “Who cares what they think. You are mine and you are loved.” It’s only when we embrace that truth that we will live the full and abundant life God has for us.
Friends, what would you do differently, how would you live differently, if you only cared about God’s opinion of your life?