I’m not sure if it’s my age or just the culture that we’re living in, but I feel like a lot of people are trying to “find themselves”. Regularly I am having conversations with or reading articles by people who are trying to unveil their calling, find their passion, or discover what they were meant to do. I have to admit that I’ve struggled with this myself from time to time, looking for some magic equation to show me what I’m supposed to do with my life.
I think the problem with this language is that we’ve turned God’s plan for our lives into a code we’re supposed to break or a treasure at the end of the end of a scavenger hunt. At some point we began to believe that our calling was a great mystery. But that’s not true at all. I believe God has given us everything we need to truly know who we are.
1. Know Who Jesus Says You Are
First of all, we all must realize that our ultimate callings are all the same, to know God and make God known. How we each do that may look different, but ultimately, that’s what we are made for.
In addition to that, we must place our whole identity and self-worth in who Christ says we are. He tells us that we are His masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10 ), an heir (Galatians 4:7), God’s temple (1 Corinthians 3:16), we are forgiven (Hebrews 8:12), we are chosen (1 Peters 2:9).
I’ve struggled for a long time to really believe those things, and because I didn’t, I Iooked to others to find my self-worth. That was a dangerous and hard road to go down. The first time I faced someone who truly wasn’t happy with my performance, I found myself lost and broken. I didn’t have a clue who I truly was. I wasted a lot of time caring about what others thought more than I care what God thought.
2. Know Your Values
Several years ago I was challenged to determine my own personal values. It was such a good practice that helped me determine what is really most important to me. These values became a filter through which I make decisions, guard rails for the way I live my life and the paths I’ve chosen to take.
I actually wrote a blog post recently for WorkMatters about the importance of personal values and how to create your own list. If you’re interested in doing this for yourself you should check out that post, I definitely recommend it.
3. Know Your Personality
So if you know me at all you probably know that I LOVE personality tests. I think they reveal such important and deep parts of who we are. They are incredibly helpful in navigating all sorts of life situations. Knowing myself better has helped my marriage, helped me work better with others, and helped me discover what I’m good at.
God made us each unique and different, and He wants us to view those differences as strengths. When we find value in our uniqueness we’re able to use jour influence for greater impact.
Myers Briggs Type Indicator is a great one to try out if you’re interested.
4. Know Your Spiritual Gifts
1 Corinthians 12 introduces us to spiritual gifts which are unique ways God has gifted us to serve Him. They include things like giving, teaching, or even administration. Knowing and understanding your gifts can bring great insight into how God wants to use you.
Once I began really unpacking my gifts I started noticing more and more opportunities to use them. The more I stepped into those opportunities the more I saw God shaping my passions, which directed how i accomplished my calling of knowing Him and making Him known..
If you don’t know your gifts you can take this short quiz to find out.
It’s really that simple. Know you God says you are, determine your personal values, get to know your personality deeply, and discover what gifts He’s given you. Then go do something. Calling is not meant to be a mystery. He’s given you everything you need to know in scripture and right in how He made you.