“Hey! How are you?”
“I’m doing good, just soooo busy.”
“Oh my word, me too! There’s just too much going on.”
You both may leave that brief encounter thinking, “Yeah, you might be busy, but you have no idea how busy I really am. There’s no way she’s as busy as I am…if she only knew!” You want to be appreciated for all that you’re doing, recognized for you valiant effort to do all the things.
You don’t leave that conversation really knowing what’s going on in your friend’s life. Instead, you leave thinking only about yourself and all that you’re doing. You’re either feeling really good about yourself or frustrated with her for not appreciating you enough.
I know I’ve had many of those conversations. In fact, I’m embarrassed and saddened as I think back on how many times I resort to describing my life as simply busy. I do this out of habit. It seems to be the easy answer, but I think there’s also a deeper reason that I too often use the label of busy.
Friends, I think we’re all hiding behind busy.
We hide behind busy because it’s safe, it’s what’s expected. When we’re hiding behind busy we don’t have to share what we’re really feeling. We simply tell those around us that we’re busy and that’s accepted. No one presses any further because we all understand busy, we can deal with it and not have to face any uncomfortable real feelings or emotions.
We hide behind busy because it’s easy. It’s easier for me to tell myself I’m too busy than to simply sit down and get to work on the things God has asked me to do. I fill my schedule with busy and justify not spending time with a hurting friend, not working on that new idea and dream God has placed on my heart, or serving my community or church. Busy is the good thing that takes the place of the great thing.
Busy is the easy, expected thing in the midst of the hard and vulnerable thing.
I don’t want to just be busy anymore. I don’t want to waste this life running around doing all of the things I think are expected, waiting on someone to adequately appreciate my busy.
I want to do the hard work of saying no to busy.
When we say no to busy we leave space to hear God’s voice. We leave space and time to actually do the things he’s placed before us.
Will you join me? Let’s let go of busy, just let it slip away. Let’s be intentional about finding time for the great stuff, the life-giving stuff. When we do, I think we’ll find more joy and contentment than we ever thought possible.