Our culture, all that it encompasses, is so loud! I feel it screaming at me all day long. Consume this, watch that, shop here, post this, like that. It’s overwhelming. And you know what? I give into it ALL THE TIME. When I’m faced with a decision, I go for what’s comfortable, what’s easy. Instead of writing what’s on my heart, I watch the 100th episode of Gilmore Girls for the week. Instead of picking up the phone and calling my hurting friend, I do some online shopping and browse Twitter. We all have our things. The fun, comfortable, easy things that keep us from doing the awkward, hard, significant things. The things that speak Jesus.
I’m in a season of giving into the comfortable and easy far more often than I’d like to admit. I feel God tugging at my heart to do more of what matters. To get off the couch or put down my computer and love on people. The problem is, I’m lazy and I let the noise of this world distract me from the still, small whisper of our Lord — the voice that’s calling me to live a life that’s different.
As I struggle through this dichotomy — what I want to do vs. what I’m actually doing — I’ve stumbled onto something that helps. For the first time I have a true accountability partner. The funny thing is, God totally forced this on me because I would never do this on my own. I agreed to the partnership somewhat out of obligation, but what I’ve found is a place to speak out loud what I want for my life. We can’t effectively live this life alone, we need community. That’s how we’re created. Having an accountability partner is a very special and unique way to tap into the beautiful gift of community. Accountability is an anchor for an intentional life.
Now, I know what you’re thinking. “I’ve had accountability partners before, they never work.” I agree, they’re not always successful. However, I firmly believe if both parties are committed they can be incredibly powerful. Here are a few things I’ve learned about accountability that will help you develop a partnership that sticks.
- Pray for God to bring someone to you who knows and understands your heart.
- Give yourself permission to be vulnerable. Accountability partners will only work if you commit to sharing truth.
- Limit your goals. Only choose 2-3 things that you want to focus on.
- Don’t just talk about what you didn’t do, but discuss why you didn’t do it. Figure out what got in the way and make adjustments.
- Love each other and pray for one another.
I’m praying for you too. I’m praying that God would bring someone very special to you, to help breathe new life into your call to live significantly. The world is never going to give us permission to live differently, to live counter-culturally. It will always require self-discipline and bravery. Step out of your comfortable today, friend. Be bold and ask someone to walk this journey with you.